It's been a whirlwind year of firsts for John Michael... most importantly, he has successfully completed a year of fully included Kindergarten in our kids' Catholic School and is the first student with Down syndrome at the school. On the day of his Kindergarten promotion, I literally felt like I could exhale for the first time in months. All the emotions... the awesome moments and the kick-in-your-gut raw days instantly behind us and I had a good little
The year started off with John Michael un-aided and we took a "let's see how this works" approach. It became clear within the first week or two that an aide would be necessary to help him stay on task, give individualized attention to understand how to do a worksheet, to help with initiating play on the playground, playing appropriately, give extra time when writing or doing math or at learning centers which required more patience and time to complete a task, etc...
My head spun as I now had to hire someone to help John Michael succeed. In a private school, the family typically provides the aide since we opted out of the public school system. We felt strongly that John Michael should attend the same school as all his siblings and to grow up in a nurturing Catholic environment where faith was interwoven in every aspect of school day. I advertised on Craigslist and Care.com, looking for a qualified person with a great personality. After a few mis-fits and a few weeks of frustration and prayer, we found Sara... John Michael bonded with her immediately at the park where we met her and we could tell within 30 minutes that she would be a great fit. She is a breath of fresh air, patient, kind, compassionate, caring, positive and coachable... willing to do what it takes to help our little man succeed. It's been a win-win, because the principal, teachers and the kids in the class love her.
There are so many aspects of his school year I could write on, and I could spin it to be ultra-positive, but I'll opt for real...so pardon the free flow writing... I also hope this isn't so long that I lose you!! Please leave a comment to let me know you're there! A little positive reinforcement will help keep me writing LOL.
STRENGTHS: While all kids with Down syndrome develop uniquely and have different strengths and challenges, John Michael's strengths are his verbal skills and physical strength. At the start of the year, he had a hard time with fine motor skills, such as scissor cutting and using enough pressure to write his name with a pencil. He gets weekly Occupational Therapy to help strengthen his core and work on fine motor. He's done a fantastic job this year and can cut rectangles, circles and triangles fairly well. Organic shapes, where a lot of turning is required, is a bit harder and he's working on that. He seems to enjoy Math (often a struggle for kids with Ds, but maybe he inherited my Math gene :-)). Now, he can cut out equations, match correct simple addition or subtraction answers to a picture, glue and color on his worksheet all independently. As for writing, what a difference a year makes! You can see by this "before and after" example how his name writing has developed... He started the year by writing JOHN in all caps. By year's end, he writes JOHN MICHAEL with upper and lower mixed all on his own!! He can write all of his uppercase letters independently, including most lowercase as well. His number writing is also improving tremendously, with 2's and 5's being the hardest to write legibly, but they are coming along great.
John Michael's speech is very good and he is mostly understood by his peers and teachers. Sometimes he speaks too quickly, but he is also very willing to slow down, try again and correct his pronunciation, so I added "articulation" as a goal to his Speech Therapy goals. With his personality, confidence and ability to perform, I can see him being a self-advocate speaker or a musician/actor some day and articulation will be key for him to be understood. I'm so proud of him!! Musically speaking, he is also great at matching my pitch and has a range of about one octave. :-)
CHALLENGES: Our biggest challenge this year has been his behavior and is a huge reason why a one to one aide is necessary for him. He's a bright, engaged kid who loves to learn, which includes picking up language and "bad words" heard from other kids. In our home, the "S" word (stupid) isn't allowed... yet John Michael developed a habit of calling people stupid... adults, students, teachers, parents... anyone's fair game. He tells me a boy in his class calls him stupid. I pray that's not the case... Then in true Kindergarten "age-appropriate-yet-annoying" behavior, he uses lots of "potty words"... ad nauseum!!! Girls tend to ignore him, but boys will laugh and encourage him, so it continues... Problem is that his little brother, Luke, who just turned 4, hears it, laughs, mimics him or tattles on him, which re-enforces the behavior... He has also had trouble this year with pushing kids or kicking them if they were within reach... blowing raspberries, which are very wet, and he would get in trouble for spitting... I keep reminding myself... "This too shall pass", and then something new will pop up and challenge us.
SOCIAL: John Michael has a few friends in the class, mostly girls and a couple boys who will play with him at recess. He is also very comfortable playing by himself. He is well-known and liked by most of the student body which goes from Transitional Kindergarten through 8th Grade. It's heart-warming to see him comfortably approaching 7th and 8th Grade boys to play basketball! When passing kids in the hall, he gets high 5's or hugs from kids, too. After school, at pickup, I often find him chatting in a group with big kids. They love him, but I would like to see him developing bonds with peers of his own age. That has been a bit challenging, and while he has been invited to some birthday parties, he has not been asked for playdates. Having a large family has its bonuses in terms of never running out of playmates, but it makes it more difficult to plan playdates as well... I also wonder if parents are a little nervous to ask. I'm praying that his behavior will continue to improve and kids will want to spend time with him and include him in their social activities. He often talks of wanting a "sleepover", but I'm so not ready for that yet... :-)
COMING UP... Next school year will bring many exciting things. When I try to imagine 1st Grade, I sometimes start to feel that ache in my heart and pressure in my head... Fear of the unknown... I have so many questions... What will 1st Grade be like? Will the teacher embrace him the way his Kindergarten teacher and aide did? Will she be patient with him and willing to modify his work and accommodate a different learning style or mode? Will she be open to alternate methods, like using the iPad? Will I have to hold her hand through this brave new world as we navigate the next year together? I'm pleased to say that his one to one aide, Sara, will stay with him next year! I'm also grateful to the dozen or so Catholic moms from all over the country that I met this past year who are blazing the trail with me or have already been on the path for a few years and encourage me and fuel my passion for full inclusion. I absolutely LOVE the flexibility we have with our Private School Plan, and do my best to block out the question "Is the grass really greener on the other side?" (meaning the public school option)
We have had so many amazing moments this past year... the Thanksgiving Feast, his participation in the Christmas Pageant, his writing and math skills (reading remains a challenge, but we've seen much improvement), the Jogathon, Kindergarten Promotion Mass (with a huge smile, he brought up the Gifts with 2 classmates), and many more great moments. Parents who thanked me for having JM at our school... A principal who approached us when JM was 12 months old and invited us to consider enrolling JM when he was old enough to attend... His wonderful teacher and aide, who reminded me all year how amazed they were at how well he was doing and that he continually surprised them with his abilities... So many blessings, too many to count! JM is a very sweet boy, compassionate and often the first one to be concerned when a student is hurt. He loves to sing, dance, learn Spanish, play basketball, and just be one of the kids. I don't think he sees himself as different from his peers and I think most of his peers see him just as John Michael... as one of their own. I will keep praying for those relationships to develop as the kids grow and mature. And will pray for an amazing year in 1st Grade!!
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